The Space Between Who You Were and Who You’re Becoming
- Nada Johnson
- Oct 9
- 3 min read
When You’re No Longer Who You Were
There are moments when life quietly changes. You’re not who you used to be, but you’re not yet sure who you’re becoming.
This space in between can feel strange and unsettling. Old routines no longer fit, familiar roles feel different, and the future seems uncertain. You might wonder, “Who am I now?”
But this in-between stage isn’t a sign of failure. It’s the middle of transformation, the part where you shed old layers and begin to rediscover yourself in new ways.
What the In-Between Really Is
Even positive changes like a new job, relationship, or move can bring unexpected emotions.
Something familiar has ended, and that loss deserves to be acknowledged.
You may feel:
➡️ Grief for what’s ending, even when you chose it
➡️ Anxiety about what’s next
➡️ Guilt for not feeling happy enough
➡️ Impatience to “move on” quickly
Psychologist William Bridges (2009) calls this the neutral zone, the emotional middle ground between endings and new beginnings.
It’s a place of deep self-work, where growth begins quietly before it’s visible.
Why the In-Between Feels So Hard
As human beings, we crave certainty. We want to skip discomfort and arrive at clarity. But when we rush through transitions, we often:
💠 Repeat old patterns in new situations
💠 Ignore emotions that need to be heard
💠 Lose touch with what we truly value
Therapy offers a space to pause.
It’s a safe and compassionate environment to unpack the emotions, patterns, and stories shaping who you are becoming.
How Counselling Can Help
At Nada Johnson Consulting & Counselling Services (NJCCS), I support individuals, couples, and families through times of transition and change. Together, we work to:
🌿 Understand and name the emotions beneath uncertainty
🌿 Reconnect with your sense of identity and purpose
🌿 Develop strategies to manage anxiety and self-doubt
🌿 Build resilience, confidence, and self-compassion
Counselling isn’t about rushing to the next chapter.
It’s about helping you feel grounded as you step into it.
You’re Not Lost. You’re Evolving.
If you’re in the space between who you were and who you’re becoming, remember that this is where growth happens.
It’s okay to take your time. Healing and clarity unfold slowly, and that’s part of the process.
With the right support, this uncertain space can become a season of rediscovery, renewal, and peace.
With warmth,
Nada Johnson, MSW, RSW
Registered Social Worker, Psychotherapist / trained Family Mediator / EMDR Trained Therapist / Certified Racial Trauma Clinician / Mental Health & Sexual Violence Consultant / Professional Speaker
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References
Bridges, W. (2009). Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change. Da Capo Press.Gross, J. J. (2015). Emotion regulation: Current status and future prospects. Psychological Inquiry, 26(1), 1–26.Neimeyer, R. A. (2019). Constructivist Psychotherapy: Distinctive Features. Routledge.Rogers, C. R. (1957). The necessary and sufficient conditions of therapeutic personality change. Journal of Consulting Psychology, 21(2), 95–103.
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