I hear it so often: “It’s been years. Why am I still feeling this way? “Shouldn’t I be over it by now?” If that sounds familiar, please know there’s nothing wrong with you. 💛 Healing isn’t about forgetting; it’s about learning to carry your story differently, so it no longer carries you. 💭 The Pressure to “Move On” Our culture celebrates quick recovery. We’re told to “let it go” or “move on.” But real healing takes time. Even when your mind moves forward, your body may sti

In Caribbean culture, image and reputation carry heavy weight especially for women. Many are taught from childhood to present as clean, controlled, and respectable at all times. You must speak properly. Dress decently. Behave well. Never "bring shame" to your family name (Crichlow, 2016).

In Trinidadian and wider Caribbean culture, the term tabanca is often used to describe the emotional distress that follows heartbreak or rejection. It’s treated as both a joke and a rite of passage a dramatic but temporary phase that women are expected to bounce back from (Rohlehr, 2004). But what if tabanca isn’t just heartbreak? What if it's complex trauma in disguise? Especially when the relationship involved emotional abuse, betrayal, or years of silent suffering.

Exploring how emotional self-sufficiency becomes a trauma response and how NJCCS helps soften the armor.

From an early age, Caribbean girls are often taught to suppress their feelings, especially sadness, grief, or fear. Emotional control is seen as maturity, while crying is often ridiculed, discouraged, or punished. But this emotional stoicism comes at a cost.

In many Caribbean families, forgiveness is treated as a moral obligation, often grounded in religious and cultural teachings. Survivors of abuse, betrayal, or neglect are frequently told to “let it go” or “give it to God,” without being given space to fully process their pain (Pargament et al., 2005). Forgiveness, while powerful, becomes weaponized when rushed or demanded.

When you're the first in your Caribbean family to go to therapy, set boundaries, or speak the truth—how NJCCS supports you in carrying what’s never been carried before.

Exploring the legacy of secrecy, shame, and unspoken trauma and how NJCCS helps Caribbean women heal in truth.

Workplace conflict can quietly chip away at your confidence especially as a woman in leadership. You may feel dismissed, second-guessed, or like you're constantly walking a tightrope. This blog explores how gender inequality shows up at work and how it impacts your mental and emotional well-being (Pavlou, 2023; Stamarski & Son Hing, 2015). You deserve to feel respected, heard, and supported. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone and I’m here to help.

😩 The Lie of Endurance “You can rest when you're done.” “Keep going, you're strong.” “You don’t have time to be tired.” Many Caribbean...

For many Caribbean women, the church has been a space of both sanctuary and suffering. While faith is often central to cultural identity and community, it has also been weaponized to silence, control, and shame.

Sometimes, unhealthy patterns in a relationship are hard to spot. You might notice that something doesn’t feel quite right, but not be sure why. Let’s gently explore some of the signs that might show up at the beginning of a relationship and recognize things that don’t always seem harmful at first, but could be cause for concern.

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Celebrating Women’s History Month by honoring resilience, uplifting voices, and empowering women to reclaim their stories. 💙