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Why You Might Struggle to Tell Your Story—and That’s Okay

If something happened to you that felt uncomfortable, painful, or crossed your boundaries and you haven’t told anyone about it you’re not alone.


You might not know where to start, or even if you want to talk about it. And that’s okay.

There are so many reasons why opening up about experiences like sexual assault or boundary-crossing feels overwhelming.


You might worry about not being believed, or feel ashamed even though you didn’t do anything wrong. Maybe you’ve been told to stay quiet, or you just don’t have the words yet. All of that is valid. Wherever you are in your process, you deserve support that honours your experience and your strength.


At Nada Johnson Consulting & Counselling Services, care is offered in a way that respects your pace. Whether you're ready to talk or just need a space where you feel calm and understood, Nada is here to meet you where you are.


Healing isn’t about forcing yourself to talk before you’re ready. It’s about feeling safe enough to share in your own time, with someone who understands how layered and complex these experiences can be.


This blog draws on information shared by Aspire Counseling, which highlights the complex reasons why survivors may not come forward immediately after an assault.

Worrying You Won’t Be Believed

You might wonder, “What if no one believes me?” This fear is very common, especially if the person who hurt you is someone close like a partner, friend, or family member. When others respect or trust that person, it can make opening up feel even harder. It’s okay to feel unsure. Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to find someone who listens and believes you.

Feeling Ashamed or Blaming Yourself

It’s normal to ask yourself things like, “Did I do something wrong?” or “Could I have done something differently?” But it’s so important to remember: the harm was not your fault. Shame often sneaks in even when we are completely innocent. Healing starts with being kind to yourself and knowing that what happened does not define you.

Fear of Being Judged or Blamed

You might worry about what people will say or think. Sometimes, people ask questions that don’t help, like “What were you wearing?” or “Did you say no clearly?” These kinds of questions miss the point. No one deserves to be hurt, and you deserve to feel safe

and supported.

Not Feeling Safe In the Criminal Justice System

It’s totally okay if you’re not sure about talking to the police or reaching out to other systems. A lot of women — especially those who are Black, Indigenous, racialize, trans, immigrant, or living with low income haven’t always felt safe or supported in those spaces.


Some have been ignored, judged, or made to feel like it was their fault. That’s not okay and it makes sense if you're hesitant.

No matter what you choose, your story matters. Your healing matters. You get to decide what feels right for you, and when.

You’re Not Alone—We’re Here When You’re Ready

At Nada Johnson Consulting & Counselling Services, Nada understands how personal and layered these experiences can be. You don’t have to explain everything right away. You don’t have to be “sure.” Nada offers a warm, supportive space where you can talk, explore your feelings, and move at your own pace.


💛 You’re allowed to take your time. You’re allowed to ask for help. You’re allowed to feel safe again.


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Sources

Tappana, J. (n.d.). Why do women wait to report sexual assault & rape? Aspire Counseling. Retrieved from https://aspirecounselingmo.com/blog/women-wait-report-sexual-assault-rape

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